Learn to Reach Out and Reach Within
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Call, write and e-mail family and friends at least once a week.
Make an effort to communicate feelings, concerns and
goals. Overcome the self-defeating behavior exemplified by the
thoughts, "I don't want to bother them with my issues" or "they
don't really care, they have their own problems" or "it's too
embarrassing to talk about". Challenge yourself to avoid
procrastination and rationalization. Developing these
communication skills will be necessary to alleviating
loneliness. It is easier and safer not to communicate your
feelings, concerns and goals. However, it is
healthier to do so.
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- Research local community organizations and select one in
which you are interested.
Contact that organization and volunteer! You are needed!
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Read authors with a positive outlook.
The reinforcement of positive thoughts, ideas and outlooks will facilitate the development of
healthier self-esteem, higher levels of self-confidence and greater motivation.
- Increase your physical activity.
Avoid self-defeating thoughts
such as, "I don't have time" or "I am not athletically
inclined" or "I can't afford a health club membership". Such
rationalization is unacceptable. Walking briskly for thirty
minutes a day costs nothing; is a small investment of time
and requires no athletic ability. Walking is but one example.
- Humor, humor, humor!
When we are lonely we tend to lose our sense
of humor. As we anticipate social encounters our imaginations conjure-up
dark thoughts of rejection, embarrassment and humiliation. We have all
been rejected at some point in our lives, be it for a job, a school,
a team, a leadership position, an organization or by a friend, family
member or intimate partner. One of the common experiences shared by most
highly successful people is past rejections. Successful people use past
rejection as a tool to facilitate future acceptance rather than an
excuse to withdraw socially. Most importantly, successful people find
humor in past rejections. It is OK and healthy to do so.
- Take personal responsibility.
When our goals are directed from within, we are
leading. When our goals are directed from external events we are following.
Leading is taking the offensive and being proactive. Following is reactive and
taking the defensive. You will almost always score more points on offense than
you will on defense.
- Take risks!
If you only pursue opportunities for which you are
guaranteed a successful outcome, you are not leading. Rejection
may be a sign of many things but it is not a sign of your
unworthiness! If you don't experience some rejection as you move
forward than you have not aimed high enough.
- Identify a confidant.
Challenge yourself to trust one person. Disclose your
goals and your action plan to that person. Seek that individual's help in
keeping you motivated to follow through with the commitments you have made to
yourself. This person will be very helpful as you attempt to avoid the hazards
of procrastination, rationalization and external blame. Ask them to hold your
feet to the fire. Your opportunity for success will be enhanced if you
engage a peer mentor who will be open and honest.
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